I have known people in my life that are so angry they insist upon making the lives of those about them as miserable as possible. In fact, as miserable as they are themselves.
What I find to be true in myself, is with anger I feel a sense of power. It is so much easier to be angry than to get to those underlying feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, powerlessness and most of all fear.
And harder than looking at those feelings is sucking up the power and willingness to not react to them. They say that pain is the touchstone of all spiritual growth. To them I say – GROWTH SUCKS THE BIG ONE!