"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find I find some person, place, thing or situation unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment." Stolen from Alcoholic Anonymous text.
For recovering people the AA Big Book is gospel. We try our damnedest to live by the principles in the book. It evidentally works, because I haven't had a drink or drug since December 4, 1984.
That being said I do have some opposing thoughts on acceptance. Does a person have to accept unacceptable behavior? Does a person have to stay in a job or relationship that they hate? If a person is sick or miserable living in a town, do they have to stay there? I THINK NOT!
I do believe that in any situation I must be free to stay before I am free to go. (Thank you Martha Rush for giving me those words of wisdom.)
Example: Eight or nine years ago I had a supervisor that tried to kill me. He would send me outside with kids on days when the heat index was 107 degrees, for 3-4 hours at a time. I got all the "shit-detail" work. This was an every day occurance. In self defense, I moved to the late night shift for a year. I considered myself a wimp, but I was determined to not leave before I was "free to stay". About 8 months into that late night stint, the supervisor got fired. A new superintendent came on board and told me I was being "wasted" working at night and I was coming back to days. Now 11 years at the same job, I am free to stay and don't plan on leaving. They will probably take me feet first off the job.
When times are hard and I think I can't go on, I pray for God to help me learn the lesson. Without learning the lesson I am bound to repeat the same mistake over and over again expecting different results (AA's definition of insanity).